Well, if it happened that you can no longer keep the emotions in yourself and feel that you need to clear the relationship up, you should know some rules. Sticking to them, you will manage to avoid alienating your dearest person and successfully solve the problem that caused the conflict.
1.Learn to listen. Being able to hear your opponent’s arguments during the showdown is a very useful quality. Strive to interrupt his tirade. So you will have the opportunity to hear the arguments of a loved one and to understand them.
2.Choose a suitable place and time for the showdown. Do not let your quarrel take place in front of strangers, especially when it comes to your guests. If they become witnesses of domestic scandal, they will have a desire to get away from your home and do not come back. As the proverb says, “Don’t wash your dirty linen in public.” It is worth to listen to it, or gossips will follow you everywhere. Also, do not meddle when you and your loved one in a hurry in the morning, going to work. Lack of time and haste will only intensify irritation and raise the degree of conflict. And especially don’t make a quarrel during intimacy with a loved one.
3. Keep control. When in the midst of trials, you have the feeling that you cease to control the situation and irritation, anger, everything increases and increases, say to yourself “stop” and try to slow down so as not to cross the border of what is permitted. Anger is not the best advisor. Usually we later regret about the words spoken under the influence of negative emotions.
4. Do not hesitate to talk to about the love that you worry. If there something in a relationship with a partner that makes you worried, irritated or upset, do not be afraid to tell your loved one. Silently hiding your discontent, and accepting the fact that you do not like, is wrong. Firstly, most likely no one will even realize that you are dissatisfied with something. Second, anger and resentment will build up in your heart until they reach their limit and gush out, causing a huge scandal. If you really love, you will listen to your words, try to understand what you feel, and do everything possible to solve the problem, to find a compromise. If not, you probably should not hold on to a man who does not care about your feelings and experiences.
5. Do not hesitate to ask when something does not understand. You think that you know how to read the thoughts of his beloved and well understand it? You’re wrong. If you’re not going to ask questions about what is important for you because if you talk to each other a little, there is a risk and are not understood. If you see that your favorite something upset, let him speak, to explain the reason, and do not make speculations and not invent what does not exist. Listen carefully to it, try to understand.
6. Try to see it through the eyes of a problem. When we are irritated, each of us is fully confident in their rightness. Quarrels arise because we assess the situation with our eyes, not thinking about how the loved one sees this. Try to look at what is happening with his eyes, it will help you understand why he did what he feels. Put yourself in another person’s place, and you will understand why there is a conflict with you. We should not exclude the fact that there is your fault in this situation.
7. Do not let yourself insult the loved one. Whatever seething passion during an argument, never allow yourself to insult and humiliate the partner. In life, it is often: quarreled – reconciled, but the words he loved temper and humiliate you, will long live in the memory, poisoning your feelings. Respect the one you love, even when angry or offended at him. Take care of each other and their love. Each row helps us to know each other better. We have an incentive to improve, work hard to make the relationship stronger. Quarrels help identify vulnerabilities. Due to quarrels swim on the surface of all the differences and contradictions that exist between you. Together, we can always find a way out of the problem, fix it, what prevents harmonize your relationship. If you happen to find “your person”, if it is true love, then, no matter how much you may quarrel, still make every effort to save the relationship and make peace, and love each other even more.